Easier said than done, right? Well, we want to help you out with these tips on how to tell the boys from the men. But before you dig in, there is one thing you must understand – girls are attracted to boys and women are attracted to men. Growing up yourself is half the battle. You have to be a woman, not a girl. Let’s help you with the rest.
How do you know he or she is the right person for you? this question always comes into our mind when we meet someone whom we have feelings for.
Before one should start a relationship,
1. Having a God centered relationship
GOD has to be first, This is so cliche. But it's the truth & this will never change. the above 4 reasons won't happen unless GOD is really first in your heart. Spend DAILY time with Him, apply what you learned, serve in your local church, walk in love, pray earnestly for your guy, forgive whoever hurt you-- DO your part. When TWO believers come together with their hearts committed to Christ.. YOU both turn into a POWER COUPLE
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BUILD YOUR FRIENDSHIP:
The crux of a successful relationship is a strong friendship. Building a friendship with a love interest happens under the sun. Instead of making plans for a candlelight dinner by tranquil waters or inviting someone over to “watch” a movie, spend time in non-romantic settings. Meeting up for lunch, coffee or even taking a walk downtown in the city or at a park may open up a conversation about the landscape and it’s history or interesting people you see walking or running by. You will find out a persons outlook on life. Exercising together is another way to build a friendship: going for a run is a time for friendly, flirting competitiveness. While you maybe checking each other out discretely, the conversation you have may show something about their family upbringing, their dreams and ambitions or how they really feel about their occupation You may have found a new workout partner, someone who could help you reach your fitness goals or vice versa. "The point here is to get to know each other in public places before you decide to know each other in intimate settings"
3. LOVE YOURSELF
It's not so simple: We often believe that we do love ourselves, and yet our actions and reactions, and our lives, suggest otherwise. Yet loving yourself is essential to your personal growth, to the fulfillment of your dreams, and to developing healthy, happy relationships with others. Instead of trying to just talk yourself into believing you have self-love.
Three practical steps:
i. Care as much about yourself as you do for others.
It sounds simple, but many of us simply don’t do this because we think we are being selfish or that our own needs are not important. They are. It is not selfish to care about yourself. Compassion for yourself means showing concern for your own feelings as well as for others. Treat yourself the way you would treat your children or your best friend—with gentleness, concern and caring.
ii. Maintain your boundaries.
Write a list of the things that you need emotionally, things that are important to you and that upset you or hurt your feelings when they are ignored or violated. They could include being listened to; getting sympathy when you’re hurt; being celebrated when you succeed; receiving love and tenderness without asking for it; being cared for; and knowing you can rely on someone. Whatever is important to you is important. And when someone ignores what’s important to you or crosses your boundary, you’ll know—because it hurts. Don’t ignore that. Your feelings are there to tell you what’s right and what’s wrong.
Let people know what your boundaries are and what you will and will not tolerate. If they apologize, you can forgive them. If they do not, or continue to ignore your boundaries and needs, you need to create consequences.
iii.Do what you need to do to be you.
First, figure out what makes you feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, but become aware of how you feel when you do things, Find out what makes you feel good and do it, as often as you can. Feeling good is all the permission you need to do what you love to do. And the more you do those things, the happier you will be. If it means you have to give up something else, so be it. Perhaps you need to spend more time on your own or schedule an hour every weekend.
3.BUILDING TRUST BEFORE DATING.
Is trust easier to destroy than to build,Long-term relationships depend on cooperation. To achieve this, individuals need to be able to substitute for each other, influence one another, and have a positive attitude towards one another. Trust is a core issue at the beginning of a business relationship, but a secondary concern at the start of a romantic relationship.
4. Spend time with God.
If you wonder why jealousy, envy, and being controlling is involved in a relationship, it's evident of WHO you let into your relationship. When you have sex outside of marriage it introduces feelings & unhealthy emotions.
5. Guard your heart. (Proverbs 4:23) STOP watching stupid reality TV songs, going to clubs, love-sex songs, pornography or blogs. DO you know that those things plant seeds in your heart. Then, you wonder why you want to live it out & be sexual with your guy! SO stop being all sexual as you sing & dance a beyonce song to your guy. Even IF you're joking. Men are visual & their APPLIANCES work. WHY test it out?
