When It's Time to Let a Relationship Go

But sometimes, no matter how hard partners try, their relationships just don’t work. Quality partners who have lost each other usually feel terrible about hurting the other and saddened at their own feelings of failure. Because there is so little support out there to comfort them, they are often reluctant to talk about what happened. It’s just not fashionable anymore to give up.

The fact is, that many relationships should end. That is especially true when both partners have done all they can, aren't even sure why things went wrong, and are weary of trying. Sure, there may be a contingent of difficult people who just can’t get along with others for any length of time, run when intimacy deepens, or just prefer sequential relationships for their own reasons. 

But, for the most part, new lovers want to please each other, to deepen their connection, and to overcome their barriers. When they've tried everything they can, and the relationship still doesn't work, it should not be about fault, shame, blame, or fear of trying again.

There are some real and justifiable reasons why good people cannot seem to get past their relationship difficulties, no matter how much energy and time they have devoted to each other. If they've done their best and end in appreciation of the other’s efforts, they need not to linger in the grief of failure, but to use what they've given each other to form a better foundation for the next time around.

If well-intentioned and caring people can, without guilt or blame, recognize the symptoms that tell them that they need to let go, they can end their relationship without resentment or feelings of wasted time. If couples stay too long in a relationship that can’t get better, they risk losing the opportunity to cherish the lessons they have learned together.

Real Relationship Goals for every couple.

We're smothered with "relationship goals" on Facebook. What makes a real relationship goal couple?

1. Love Through The Hard Times. Through the anxiety, depression, and lack of money you get through it together. You're able to withstand everything that can tear you apart only because you're willing to work through it. Love isn't always beautiful but it's worth the pain.

2. Become A Team. You don't watch each other fall. You build each other up and help each other become the best possible version of you. 

There is no need to use each other as an ATM because you're both willing to work to get what you want and strive to be. 

You help each other in little chores or big projects you both can tackle together. You don't just leave the work up to one person.

3. Fights Help Deepen The Relationship. A "relationship goals" couple will not have screaming matches without ending it in forgiveness. There will be disagreement but to forgive you must be compassionate and understanding. 

You'll discover what made your partner hurt and came to an agreement on what to do about it. You don't just give up on them; you fight to make the relationship beautiful again.

4. Communication & Compromise. These two come hand in hand because to compromise you must communicate. It's not just asking how their day is. It's talking about your feelings, what is bothering you, details about your day.

 It's letting each other know where you are and what time you'll be home out of courtesy. It's compromising of important issues you both just don't agree with. Things as simple as decor, an animal, or even political views.

5. Promising Forever. You will forever be falling in love with the same person over and over again. Security is knowing they choose you and only you forever. 

Your relationship is unspoken faithfulness, sincerity, and complete openness. You know deep in your heart that they are the one you are supposed to be with forever.

6. Best Friends. You're able to confide in each other anything and everything without judgement. You will laugh and flirt together like it was the very first time you met. 

You'll eat ice cream together and binge watch Netflix, laugh about the old days, and continually throw out your inside jokes. The friendship you create will be the quality that makes it last. It will make the world strive to find what you've found.

Various ways Successful power couples stay together and live together peacefully.

1.They prioritize spending time together

I'm convinced that the single biggest contributor to the breakdown in relationships today is the fact that couples aren't spending enough time together. They aren't making their relationships a number one priority. The relationship gets put on the back burner. Everything else seems more important - careers, children, hobbies, community involvement, and personal pursuits. And when relationships aren't attended to as they should be, trouble sets in.

People who don't prioritize their relationships tell me that they often end up fighting during the little time they do have together. They argue about day to day issues; unpaid bills, uncleaned houses, unruly children. And it's no wonder. It's difficult to do what needs to be done to keep life moving in a productive direction, let alone try to coordinate your efforts with your partner's when you're under a time crunch. 

2.Their time is spent doing good

“Time is the currency of relationships. There’s no way to invest into a relationship without investing your time.” —Dave Willis

Time is a mystery. When we’re young, we have all the time in the world. When we’re married with kids, we never have enough time. When the nest is empty, we wonder where the time went. As we age, we increasingly comprehend the value of time. When faced with the realization that time will end, we truly appreciate just how precious it is.

3.They listen and empathize

“Empathy is truly the heart of the relationship,” said Carin Goldstein, a licensed marriage and family therapist.“Without it, the relationship will struggle to survive.” That’s because empathy requires compassion. And, without compassion, couples can’t develop a bond.

“[A] bond is like glue: If there is no glue then everything falls apart.”

Psychotherapist Cindy Sigal, AMFT, also stressed the importance of empathy for relationships: “Empathy bridges the divide between being separate individuals with different backgrounds, feelings and perspectives.”

4.They speak up about problems before it's too late

It’s an alternative approach to the common relationship advice that every issue has to be talked about at length, and that partners need to understand each other’s every motivation and thought process. Instead, these tips get right to the daily difficulties that cause the fights, addressing unhelpful behaviors and giving solutions to move past them.

5.They express their appreciation

When we talk about marriage, we’re quick to talk about “love” (which is a good thing), but we rarely talk about the importance of “appreciation.” As I’ve talked with countless married couples online and in person, there seems to be an epidemic in marriages that stem from a lack of appreciation. When a spouse feels unappreciated, it often leads to resentment or possibly even divorce. Showing appreciation to your spouse is vital for a healthy marriage, and these five quick tips below will help you do it well.

6.They pray together:

Is it healthy for couples to quarrel?

When lovers quarrel is it healthy? well this is my view about the issue, we have experienced this one way or the other when one minute you seem like everything is going great , you guys are giggling and laughing and teasing each other while another minute you guys are yelling at each other.

Every now and then, no matter how close and intimate a couple is, an argument occasionally looms to create a tide in the relationship, sometimes it makes the relationship better, but sometimes it might shake the relationship down to its very core, but ladies and gentlemen if you guys can handle it properly, then it is healthy and it can help create a long lasting relationship.

How to handle the situation.

we should learn to talk to each other no matter how bad it is,sometimes yelling at each other doesn't make things better because you guys wont hear each other but never let the day go by without forgiven your significant other, nobody is perfect but learning how to handle conflicts helps the relationship.

1. When you are angry about a situation, take a deep breath, leave the scene chill out, think about the great and wonderful times you guys spent with each other, ask yourself is this situation bigger than the love i have for partner.

2. Don't let your ego destroy your relationship,Learn from your mistakes, and understand that every couple have conflicts but how you handle it makes the difference.

Would you rather break the relationship or settle your differences?

HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER.

Phone has helped in communication but also it has helped to destroy relationship, we cant be doing the same thing over and over again.

We were created to communicate with each other, but when you are with your significant other, why cant you stay away from the phone, why cant you talk to each other, let the phone go when you are with your partner.

6 ways to improve emotional communication and deepen your relationship

1. Make small talk.

You may feel like asking for tiny details will seem rude, intrusive, or critical. But keep in mind that you’re not asking for details to catch your partner doing something wrong. You’re letting them know that you care about them and are interested in what interests them. Maybe you won’t learn anything new—but you will communicate a genuine interest in the small details that make up your partner’s day. And it’s those insignificant moments that make up the reality of our lives.

2. Don’t just ask about small insignificant experiences. Share them.

If a picture is worth a thousand words, a tiny action can be worth even more. Reach out and take your partner’s hand. Or if one or both of you are not the hand-holding type, simply stand so that some small part of your body makes contact, even if only for a few seconds. These are times when talking about the experience can actually destroy the moment of intimacy. Just share it in silence.

3. Listen carefully. 

Knowing that you are being heard is one of the experiences most likely to cement a feeling of connection to another. One way to improve your listening skills is to use a technique called “active listening.” This is a form of listening in which you acknowledge not only that you are listening—as with a nod of the head or saying “uh-huh"— but also that you understand what is being said. Understanding can be communicated with a smile, a word or a phrase that captures what they’re saying, or even with a simple “I understand”—if you really do understand. Interestingly, active listening can also involve interruptions for clarification or even disagreements. If you interrupt, be sure to ask permission. “Sorry, can I ask you a question?” is a reasonable way to do it. Then ask something that is clearly related to clarifying what your partner is telling you. If you disagree with the overall concept or with their handling of a situation, wait until they have finished talking before you express disagreement. But if you are not sure that they have accurately described something, you can ask for more clarification—without accusing them of lying, of course.

4. Ask questions, and don’t assume that you know the answers.

Finding a healthy balance between talking and listening is difficult in most relationships, but even harder as you get to know each other, so it’s important that you both get a chance to talk and listen.

5. Talk about yourself, but don’t take all of the air. Finding a healthy balance between talking and listening is difficult in most relationships, but even harder as you get to know each other, so it’s important that you both get a chance to talk and listen.

6. Once you’ve become aware of some of the hidden shared moments you’re having with your partner, see if you can find ways to increase your daily amount of insignificant experiences together. If one—or both—of you are not so good at putting your feelings into words, or even describing the mundane details of your day, don’t worry. 

How partners Handle External Adversity and Crisis Together.

One of the traits of highly successful and enduring relationships is the partners’ ability to stand together in the face of external challenges. A true test of a relationship is whether two people have each others’ back when times are tough. 

Consider these questions:  Do external adversity and crisis bring you and your partner closer together, or pull you farther apart? In difficult life circumstances, do you and your partner act like adults or children? Can you and your partner share the bad times, or only enjoy the good times? As Adler and Proctor II state, “Companions who have endured physical challenges together… form a bond that can last a lifetime.

WHYDO MEN REALLY CHEAT.

It has been an issue, one of the most painful thing to experience when you love someone, it destroys the intimacy and trust, but both men and women cheat, well i know you expect something that's big. but cheating is a choice, just shows lack of character to break that trust you developed with your partner.


1. The person might not value the relationship, he is presently.
2. maybe grew up in a broken home, things we see when were kids might affect us later when we are adults.
3. Bad company.
4. Not brought up properly to love and respect other peoples feelings.
5.Not sexually satisfied
6.Lack of emotion intimacy, - you surprised men have emotions, they do but they lock it up.
7. Nagging
well we know the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" well that's  not true people change  but not everybody.


SOLUTIONS
1. Pray for your partner
2.Talk to your partner, what exactly is the problem; listen to how he feels
3. Stop nagging
4. Try something new, go on adventure together, have fun together, let him know you are the kind of lady, that once you leave me, you cant see someone like me

If you have tried your best, nothing works don't stress, he is not worth the tears, sleepiness night, because a real man will love you and not want to hurt you,and choose not to cheat.